Thanks to the media, it’s a fairly safe bet that most people can picture what a strong independent woman looks like. Many of us will know someone Continue reading “Rethinking the Strong, Independent Woman”
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The Confusing Part about Depression
The Confusing Part about Depression
When you’re physically sick, your body needs rest to fight off germs and heal. You can feel run down, exhausted, or unable to do much when you’re sick, so you don’t. And when you push yourself to do things, it can be draining and make you feel depleted or worse. It’s a pretty simple formula: when you get sick (or injured), you rest to recover/heal.
When you’re depressed, the symptoms can be quite physical too. Feeling lethargic, tired, and like everything is effortful; on top of changes in sleep, eating, and more. So it makes sense that when you feel like you’re physically struggling due to depression, you would rest and do less to recover. And here is the confusing part: if you feel awful and tired because you’re depressed and then take the time to rest or do less, you won’t get better. Resting actually maintains that lack of energy, so that the depression will either worsen or be maintained. The irony is that doing things (particularly physical activity) will improve your energy levels, rather than depleting them.
It can feel overwhelming or too hard to consider doing things, like housework, seeing friends, exercising, or working. So what can you do?
Remind yourself that something is better than nothing, and set small daily goals to kick-start your recovery. For example, if it is too hard to do the dishes: set a timer and just do what you can in 10 minutes, rather than trying to wash all of the dishes. If it feels too hard to exercise, aim small: walk to the end of the street and back, or around the block. If seeing friends is too hard: why not try responding to one or two text messages that have been left unanswered. If it feels too hard to work or study: set a timer again and do what you can in 20 minutes.
When you start doing things, several things happen. One, it improves your energy levels and motivation. Two, you gain momentum- getting started is often the problem, but it gets easier to do more and other things when you do get started. Three, you get opportunities for that low or flat mood to change- and there often is some improvement, even if slight. And finally: you get proof that you’re not useless, worthless or all the other nasty things that your mind is telling you, which also serves to start weakening the depression.
When you’re sick, resting gets you back on track. When you’re depressed, doing things (however small) will help give you the energy and motivation to get back on track. It can be hard work, but well worth doing.
Scary Thoughts After Birth
Scary Thoughts After Birth
Many women experience intrusive thoughts or images in the weeks after having their baby. Intrusive thoughts involve some type of harm happening to baby, which can be really scary and isolating. Continue reading “Scary Thoughts After Birth”
Managing worry about the future
Managing worry about the future
Apprehensive worry involves worrying about the future, and it typically consists of focusing on worst-case scenarios. You see it all play out in your head: how making a necessary comment to your boss then somehow leads to you losing your job; how a routine medical investigation then means you are facing a horrible health outcome; how going for a job interview will result in rejection and humiliation; how spending time with your friends will somehow lead to everyone hating you. When you’re facing something that makes you a little anxious, it’s easy for your thoughts to take you to the worst-case scenarios, which will make you a lot anxious. And then you go over and over all the bad things that could happen, so the anxiety sticks around far longer than what is helpful. Continue reading “Managing worry about the future”
Childbirth: The Good and the Traumatic
Childbirth: The Good and the Traumatic
It’s really common to be apprehensive towards the end of your pregnancy regarding what will happen during labour. You do your birth plan, and hope things will work out ideally. Continue reading “Childbirth: The Good and the Traumatic”
Gender Disappointment in Pregnancy
Gender Disappointment in Pregnancy
Even before you fall pregnant, you can start building your baby and future in your mind: Continue reading “Gender Disappointment in Pregnancy”
Premenstrual symptoms
Premenstrual symptoms
Most of us have heard of premenstrual syndrome: becoming irritable, anxious, or moody right before your monthly cycle. Continue reading “Premenstrual symptoms”
Judgement and Self-Doubt
Judgement and Self-Doubt
It’s not easy being a woman. Continue reading “Judgement and Self-Doubt”
Aspects of Stress and COVID-19
Aspects of Stress and COVID-19
Stress often results from overwhelming or difficult events (stressors), and tends to involve too much change, too much information, too many demands, or too much responsibility. Continue reading “Aspects of Stress and COVID-19”
Emotions are Messengers
Emotions are Messengers
I often hear people say things like, ‘I shouldn’t have felt this way’ Continue reading “Emotions are Messengers”
Understanding Panic
Understanding Panic
Panic attacks come on suddenly: sometimes in response to a clear trigger, sometimes after a build-up, and sometimes out of the blue. Continue reading “Understanding Panic”
Perinatal Anxiety: Symptoms, Risk Factors, and Treatment
Perinatal Anxiety: Symptoms, Risk Factors, and Treatment
Perinatal anxiety occurs during pregnancy or in the postnatal period (the first year after birth). Continue reading “Perinatal Anxiety: Symptoms, Risk Factors, and Treatment”